Why you should look at yourself as a complete ecosystem, not just deal with the symptoms individually.

I spent a lot of my life being unhealthy in mind and body and not very well at being. I can recall way back to my teens suffering digestive issues, mental health problems like anxiety and depression and these continued through the decades. I thought everyone was like me – worrying about future events that hadn’t and may not happen. Berating myself over past events that I could do nothing about. Having unrealistic expectations of myself and analysing absolutely everything. I thought everyone experienced these things as well as the unrest in my body. Bloating and pain (commonly known as IBS) widespread pain in my back, mainly my neck, shoulders and lower back; which was met with repeated visits to Osteopaths, Chiropractors and Physiotherapists periodically throughout the decades. These would often help for a while but nothing ever lasted for long. In 2009 I hit rock bottom in both body and mind. My body was screaming in pain, my mind overwhelmed in out of control thoughts and can say I was at breaking point. My family were supportive, I was not alone and plenty to be thankful yet here I was unable to function.

I learned to take back control over my mind and body, influence my well-being both physically and mentally and am a healthy happy and content person. It’s taken work, there is no quick fix but what I have learned is that there is no ‘one size fits all’; this interests me hugely as the mind and body is so inexplicably unique and complex we vastly underestimate the effects of our thoughts and what we fuel ourselves with, our environment and our experiences. These all shape our being.

My journey to wellness started with understanding the detrimental effect my thoughts were having on me. Using NLP based interventions and training programmes I embarked on a journey to turning my life around. From being reliant on several strong medications I no longer take any and haven’t done for years. From being unable to perform the easiest tasks without becoming exhausted, I now run half marathons (and I’m also a proud 1% who has run a marathon in their life). From being overwhelmed by life I now help others reach their own health and happiness.

Through my journey, I have met and exchanged stories with many people and the most important lesson I have learned is that what works for one person won’t necessarily work for another, this is why the NHS is struggling. To achieve wellness is a personal journey and can be facilitated by many routes, both medicine and holistic. Find what works for you. For me it was the following:

The Lightning Process at https://thelightningprocess.com. Gave me my life back. I was so motivated from doing this training course that I gave myself a goal to become a practitioner, achieved this year.

Joe Wicks The Body Coach at https://www.thebodycoach.com. Moved me from being fit but flabby to fit and strong.

My Body Fabulous at https://mybodyfabulous.co.uk . Gave me the last missing piece of the jigsaw puzzle and the answers that seemed to elude me around my digestive system.


What do we know about well-being?

What do we know about well-being? The answer is, very little, compared to what is known about illness, dysfunction and disease. Scientific study and progress on the side of positive neurological functioning is woefully inadequate compared with the negative side of assessment, treatment and research.

What good are positive emotions and why do the medical profession care about whether people are feeling good? Historically, time and energy has been given to effectively treating the symptoms generated by negative emotions whilst the benefit of using positive emotion to resolve those symptons has been largely overlooked. But what if positive emotion could help to explain some of the problems negative emotions produce? Times are changing and perceptions are being altered.

When our positive emotions are in short supply – we become stuck in a rut and painfully predictable. But when our positive emotions are in ample supply – we feel lifted, resilient, and buoyant. They are our emotions; we do have a choice to continue doing negative or positive.

In short, we can improve our well-being both physically and neurologically by following some easy steps;

1.      Find meaning in everyday life through reflecting on experiences and finding the positive. View ordinary events with a positive value. Pursue and attain realistic goals

2.      Explore relaxation, meditation or being ‘present’ using audio, exercises or imagery.

3.      Make connections by reaching out to others, applying step 1.

4.      Engage in activities and hobbies that you enjoy and you find naturally motivating.

5.      Take care of yourself, eat a variety of food, sleep well – using step 2, and engage in regular physical activity.